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Introduction:
Chinese astrology is somewhat different from western astrology though some of its elements have similarities with eastern or Vedic astrology. The aim here is to delve into the finer aspects of this ancient astrological study and present a holistic view on the same.
Chinese astrology:
In Chinese astrology the twelve zodiac signs have been divided into four animal groups. According to Chinese scholars of astrology the animals representating the four groups have identical personalities and think similarly. To put it simply even though each animal is different their style of understanding and thinking is more or less aligned.
These animal signs are associated with the year, month, day and hour of birth. One has to enter his/her date of birth to determine the animal sign associated with the same. Accordingly a compatibility chart is prepared to check compatibility between two individuals. The five elements namely air, earth, fire, metal and water which make up a human body is also calculated along with the animal sign representating an individual. This, Chinese astrologers feel provide a more detailed compatibility percentage.
The four animal groups:
Group 1: – Mouse/Rat, Dragon and Monkey
Characteristics- action oriented, positive minded and hardcore competitors
Group 2: – Buffalo/Ox, Snake and Cock/Rooster
Characteristics- deep thinkers and objective minded
Group 3: – Tiger, Horse and Dog
Characteristics- independent and egoistic
Group 4: – Cat/Rabbit, Goat and Pig
Characteristics- peace loving, co-operative, sensitive and considerate
To know about your Chinese sign you have to use your date of birth. For example if you were born on the 9th of April 1967, then the animal sign corresponding to your date of birth will be the goat. The goat as you can see falls in the group 4 with the given characteristics. To find which animal sign is compatible with yours you have to refer to the compatibility chart prepared by Chinese astrologers. The compatibility percentage is numbered from 1 to 10 with 1 being less compatible and 10 considered as highly compatible. In the case of the goat it is highly compatible with the rabbit and the pig signs and less compatible with the ox, dog and tiger signs.
With Chinese astrology you can discover many things about yourself. You can also find out how far you are compatible with lovers, family members, celebrities, friends, co-workers, travel companions and so on. So go ahead and find more about your relationships.
Host Andrea Syrtash shares helpful tips to allow you to create profiles that will stand out — from picking the picture, to building a great your profile.
If you are asking yourself, ‘Will I ever find my soul mate?’ maybe it is time you started looking online.
The chances of finding your soul mate on in the internet are probably a lot better than you think. After all, pretty much everyone goes online these days and you can find people there that you would never meet in the street. If you are in a job where you do not meet many people that you could date, or if you live way out in the country, the internet will introduce you to a whole new world.
Going online is also something you can do very quickly in the middle of a busy life. You can write a few emails on your lunch break or in an internet cafe. You do not have to be home waiting for the phone to ring. You just log in to your email account whenever you can, and see what – or who – is waiting there for you.
Of course, you have to be persistent. You may have to exchange email with a few frogs before you hook up with your prince. But do not write people off too soon. Remember, in the story, the frog changed into a prince.
Your soul mate probably will not be the person you think is drop dead gorgeous from his photo. You may feel an instant attraction or you may not. Chemistry is not there in the same way when we look at a photo as when we meet a person, so try not to decide until you meet him.
On the other hand, it is an advantage that online dating sites allow us to find out a lot about a person before we meet him. You will know his age, job, whether he has children and his likes and dislikes. But instead of using that information to decide whether he is your soul mate, use it to get to know him better. Ask him about his job, show an interest in his kids, find things that you have in common.
One of the main ways that people connect, make friends, build relationships and feel safe with another person, is by finding links between them. This can be anything from enjoying the same movie or wearing the same color shirt to discovering that your aunt once worked in the building where his brother’s business is based. We love to feel that it is a small world, it makes us feel secure. So use your emails to build these links, or give him enough information that he can see the links for himself.
Another great thing about looking for Mr Right online is that both of you probably do not feel so shy. Many people have trouble talking to a stranger but writing a few lines about yourself is easy for most of us. If you do not know what to say in your emails, look to see if he has asked you any questions. Answer them briefly, then ask him a few questions. It is best if the questions that you ask follow on from what you were just telling, so that you do not seem to be interrogating him.
Remind yourself every day, ‘I will find my soul mate online!’ and very soon your dreams could be coming true.
Andrea Syrtash: Modern technology is connecting people like never before, including people looking to cheat, perhaps with you. But how do you spot a cheater if you met online? I will offer a few clues. I am Andrea Syrtash, and this is On Dating.
Is it easier to cheat on someone online?
Man on Street: I don’t think it is easier to cheat on somebody online, I don’t think so.
Woman on Street: It’s much easier to cheat on someone online, much easier.
Woman on Street: If they can find someone to date online, then they can date someone else.
Woman on Street: It is easy to lie I would say or to deceive online.
Man on Street: It’s pretty easy to hide something.
Man on Street: I would imagine cheating on someone online would be easier than it would be in relationships, your own personal relationships.
Woman on Street: I think if you’re going to cheat on someone, you will cheat on them no matter what the situation.
Andrea Syrtash: Have you ever heard of the website Ashlemadison.com? There tagline is where monogamy becomes monotony. This place is for people looking for an affair. The site boasts 1.2 million member signups, just over a million people online looking to cheat. As dubious as it sounds, in a way it is a more straight forward than the majority of people who meet and cheat online. Most of these people cheat under the radar, and most online daters are in an awkward position of playing a guessing game.
One third of online daters are in a relationship when they join an online dating site. Believe it or not, some men and women in relationships do not think that flirtatious email exchange, with someone new, who they have just met online, is on the verge of cheating. Yeah they are wrong. Picking up online is the same as going to a local bar and picking up. No excuses.
So why is this so common? Well it is easy to be anonymous with people we meet on the internet. The chances of getting caught by your spouse or partner may be slim. I always tell people to have a healthy dose of skepticism in dating. And online dating is no exception. So how do you spot an E-cheater?
Well the short answer is you can’t. Then why am I doing this segment? Well I can offer a few clues to help you figure it out.
1. Notice your date’s schedule.
This is the first step in spotting an E-cheater. Notice are you communicating at very odd hours early in the morning, very early at night. Do you ever speak during peak times? Like between seven and ten on a weeknight.
What about the weekends?
2. Do you speak on the phone and see each other, or leave everything to emails and text?
While it’s true that some people hate the phone, make sure to have at least a few phone conversations. And see each other at these peak times. You should never date someone who you only communicated with through typed words. That is no basis for a relationship.
3. After a few months of dating, have you met your dates friends, family or co-workers?
Have you seen your date in her world? Of course you are not going to meet her network right away. But after a number of months of dating it is a valid concern if you have never met anybody connected to her.
4. After a few months of dating, have you seen your date’s home?
I have a client who used to tell me how romantic her online date was. He would fly into her town, wine and dine her. Take her to hotels all over the city. Well it turns out that this guy who was flying into Canada from the UK, actually lived thirty minutes away from her, with his wife and two kids.
5. Trust your intuition.
It is true that people who have little to worry about in a relationship rarely question their partner’s fidelity. So if you have an off feeling, trust your instinct and investigate more.
So what do you do if you suspect you are the other woman or the other man in a relationship? Go on the offense; schedule a date at a popular time. A birthday, a holiday, one of the peak times I am talking about. And if your date is never free at these times, ask what’s up. You can simply say, am I the only person you are romantically involved with at this time? Listen closely to the answer. Does your date sound defensive? Does he or she offer long winded excuses? You will get a sense.
Here are some sure fire ways to make sure your boyfriend or girlfriend is not an E-cheater:
1. Date during peak hours
2. Meet your partner’s friends or family.
3. See where your boyfriend or girlfriend lives.
4. Most importantly trust your intuition.
Bottom line, don’t be scared to speak up or play investigator if you are not feeling right after a couple of months with your online date. Trust your gut. There is a reason you’re questioning where you stand. Thanks for watching On Dating, I am Andrea Syrtash, see you next time.
What is a “soulmate”?
Let me distinguish three types of relationships. The first type of relationship is a karmic relationship. Karmic relationship is that you learn lessons together but these lessons are kind of individually given to you. You have certain elements in your life that you need to learn. Your partner has certain elements, certain situations to overcome in his or her life. Karmic relationship is that you have a share of minds, your minds are alike, you both love certain movies, and you both love certain food. That’s not a soulmate. That’s a karmic relationship, 95% of the relationships are this way. Now, the soulmate is more energetically dominated, energy-wise dominated. You have the same frequency, the same vibration as the other person. If you have the same vibration that is innate in your system, in your being you will recognize that. However, you cannot consciously recognize it, but it does feel like that you have met somebody and feel that you have known this person for ages. It’s like an instant comfort level. The lessons to be learned in the areas of the different chakras are similar. That’s a share of soul, or share of energy which is so profound that it overrides the share of minds.
What are some common misconceptions about soul mates?
Well the first misconception is that the soul mate is the ideal person. A soul mate, you know, if you vibrate the same frequency in the different chakras, you know, and it depends on how many. . .you have seven, so take three out of seven. You feel that instant connection. It’s more than a contact. It’s a connection. You have something really, really, really deeply in common and you cannot easily get your head around it consciously. Now, the interesting thing is that you think that that’s great and easy, but there’s also share of minds. And we tend nowadays to look for the similarities of opinions and choices and judgments and then feel that we are connected with each other. With soul mates, it might be another way around. I can be your soul mate and objectively we are a perfect match, but in the mind area, we can have different opinions and complete differences about the view of life or something or a vacation or food or movies or whatever you find out. People tend to focus on the mind stuff. So they’ve found their soul mate and all of a sudden, it’s not the person that is so in tune with what they think about life. Therefore, it’s more difficult than a karmic relationship.
Getting A Date: Personal Transformation And Relationships
What is the secret to attracting a soulmate?
First of all the secret to attracting a soulmate is knowing the mind is how you think about yourself, how you think about a soulmate and how you feel about attracting somebody in your life. How you tell others things and how you speak. Do you speak proactively or do you speak in a destructive kind of way like “I always run into the bad relationships” for instance. That’s a destructive way of talking to yourself and if you behave in a certain way, if you are in situations or surroundings where you have shifted the conditions to to attract somebody into your life, that’s another part. That’s the physical part of it. That’s two adults in alignment. People think that they will find their soul mate in a bar. No. Absolutely not. That is not the secret to attracting a soulmate. In order to find a soulmate, you need to put the intention out there and be convinced that that person exists. And when you really feel, think, speak and act accordingly, then you will attract the person into your life that suits you the best.
There are many people who feel that e-mail will never have the warmth or the personal touch of the old fashioned letters and cards that people used to send through the postal service. That may be true but e-mail has an advantage of the here and the now.
Because you are aware of the fact that the person you are chatting is reaching out to you in the same way as you are reaching out to that person, there is a tendency for an intimacy to build up even before you know it.
The medium ceases to be the deciding factor and when a person presses you for information which you have to supply immediately you might let certain details slip out unless you are well prepared.
You have to be on your guard all the time and keep constantly reminding your self that the person you are chatting with is, after all a stranger and a goodness-knows-what. The best thing that you could do is avoid instant intimacy altogether.
It doesn’t really matter if the other person finds you cold or reserved, you can easily solve that by telling the other person that it takes sometime for you to become comfortable with a person. That in fact is a good quality because it is as good as saying, “Well, I’m sorry I’m not the loose kind who plays around.”
There is something that many of my readers might want to know and that is how to find out if the other person is lying. As I had told you earlier, the Net can be a very unsafe place and so we have to be absolutely sure about the good faith of the other person before revealing any personal details about ourselves. So the next part has been devoted specifically for that.
4 Ways To Tell If Someone Is Lying
1.As discussed earlier, we are not going to resort to singles’ chat rooms dedicated specifically to online dating. Instead we will be in chat rooms of specific interest. So one very effective way of finding out if a person is lying would be to ask the person very pointed questions about the area of interest. If the person fumbles or gives vague answers then you do not have to waste your time on such a person.
2.Another thing that you could do is that from the moment you first make contact, jot down whatever details the person chooses to reveal to you and in subsequent encounters nonchalantly question the person about the details, if there is a contradiction in the two details then you can be as sure as pat that the person is lying.
3.Ask the person seemingly general questions but which in fact should have a very definite purpose, for example ask the person what he or she is looking for in such a relationship. Note down the answer. After two or three encounters again repeat the question and see whether the two answers match.
4.You could try pretending that you have chatted with the person before and innocently ask the person if he or she is such and such person (make something up) and try offering compliments to the person like, “I really enjoyed chatting with you the other day. You were perfectly charming…” and so on. If the person falls for cheap flattery like this, then obviously he or she makes it a hobby to chat with people under various identities.
And so the chatting goes on until the person really grows on you. When you feel that you can really trust the person, you may try giving the person your telephone number. Remember that this too is a giant leap towards building a relationship so it’s better that you be sure than sorry.
The safest thing you can do about telephone numbers is to mutually exchange it preferably at the same time, so that neither party is at a disadvantage. It’s really no big deal, you can afford to tell the person that you are just being wary, the person will understand. If he or she does not, then there is a good chance that he or she will not understand a lot of other things as well. In that case, dump the person.
The secret to hot internet dating success for men is understanding what women are looking for and also what women are afraid of when they think about online dating.
Most any single person, male or female, loves internet dating sites because they allow a person to go window shopping for a partner and see all that is available before they commit. A lot of people who join, especially as free members, just look at the pictures! In fact, there is often no point writing to a free member, because in most cases they cannot even read your message, and they are probably not seriously looking. Something you will want to concentrate on when you are dating online is not wasting time on women who are not looking for a real-life meeting.
This is also a problem with sites that do not have a paid membership at all but rely on third party advertising to make money. While some people may be genuine, a lot of the members will have joined just because it’s free. They may not be seriously looking for anyone to date and you could waste a lot of time on them. A paid site is usually worth the small monthly investment for this reason alone.
When you have exchanged a couple of messages, you will quickly want to move on to arrange a date with the women that you like. Often, however, you will find the woman does not want to move so fast. There can be many reasons for this and it does not necessarily mean she is not serious. She may have told more than she intended and may be nervous of meeting someone who already knows a lot about her. More likely, she is afraid because she is constantly hearing about the scary things that can happen to girls who meet men they have gotten to know online.
A lot of women like the anonymity of exchanging messages on a dating site and the opportunity it gives them of getting to know a guy without revealing their name, address etc. Seems like the more you try to get them to give you their phone number, the more they pull away.
It is easy to become impatient but it is very important at this stage not to push too hard. Try giving her your number instead of asking for hers. If you can give her your home number, not just your cellphone, this is great because it will show her that you are not married or living with another lady.
You may still have to talk a couple of times on the phone before she will agree to a date. Keep in mind all the advice that dating sites give, and arrange the first meeting in a public place. Make it somewhere that you will have a chance to talk a little, like a restaurant or bar. She may prefer to meet in a place that she knows, so give her the option of suggesting the location. The place she picks out can tell you a lot about her, too.
Before the date, read her messages over again and be sure to remember any little things that she told you about herself. If you are in contact with a lot of women on the dating site, it’s very important not to get them mixed! You may even want to take notes of phone conversations. Remembering little details is a great way to make the woman feel special on the date.
Make her feel safe, then make her feel special – these are the keys to hot internet dating success!
Most people assume that all of the information on safe online dating is aimed at the women. However, men also need to be safety conscious when giving out information online. Keep in mind that anybody can pretend to be anybody online, and you do not know that your correspondent is who she says she is, or even that she is female at all.
Most everybody these days knows not to give out personal information on the internet in case of ID theft. We have all seen phishing scam emails that try to get our login details or financial information. However, it is easy to forget our caution when dealing with what seems to be a gorgeous woman on a dating site.
If you meet someone online who very quickly asks for personal details such as last name and address or your place of employment, or offers them in exchange for yours, be wary. You cannot be sure why she wants this information but she surely does not yet need it. It is possible that she just wants to check you out, but until you have at least talked to her on the phone you don’t have to give any personal details.
Watch out for women who focus on anything related to money. Sure, women tend to have less money than men, and if she is upfront about not having much and is fine with it, then it’s not a problem. But if you suspect that she is hinting that she needs a loan or a gift of money, or if she wants anything that requires your bank account details, do not give them and do not contact her again.
The most common financial scam involves a situation where you are asked to receive money or pay a cashier’s check into your bank account in exchange for goods or a payment of less than the amount you have been paid. It seems like you cannot lose, until the cashier’s check is returned by your bank, the person disappears and you have given goods or paid out money for nothing.
If a woman gives you her phone number but you always get the answering machine, you may wonder why, especially if she calls you back from a different number. Is that really her number? Maybe she doesn’t like answering the phone to strangers, but once she knows you and recognizes your number, it is reasonable to expect her to pick up now and again.
Be very cautious if you never get to talk to her on the phone at all. If all you ever receive is emails and text messages in response to your phone calls, keep in mind that ’she’ may not be able to talk to you because ’she’ is not really a woman. This may not be a financial scam but perhaps a gay man wasting your time while he acts out a fantasy. Move on to a real woman who wants to speak to you.
The great thing about internet dating is that there are so many genuine people out there, looking for love. All you need to do is be aware of a few simple rules of safe online dating.
When you are hoping to attract and seduce a woman, you will need to know how to win her trust. Women are taught to be cautious of men throughout their lives. Children are told by their parents and teachers to be careful of strange men and for girls this continues after they are grown up.
So when you want to attract a woman, you need to earn her trust. This means treating her in a way that shows you will not hurt her. This is not just a question of hurting her physically, although this is certainly a factor. However, she also wants to know that you will not hurt her and treat her badly emotionally.
A man who is impatient and tries to bully women or coerce them into agreeing to a date is not likely to be successful with women. There may be a few who will accept this kind of treatment but most will run away. If you push a woman too hard for her phone number, for example, she will become afraid and will give you a false one.
A great way to win a woman’s trust is to establish a connection. In fact, this works for all relationships and you are probably aware of it. For example, if you are stuck in an elevator or involved in a dangerous or awkward situation with other people, you will quickly trust the people who are in that situation with you. A connection is created and a level of trust which would normally have taken months to build up, is right there immediately.
Of course you cannot arrange to get stuck in an elevator with every attractive woman that you meet – or if you do, you will find that word gets around town and people quickly become unwilling to enter elevators with you! But a great technique when you first meet a woman and want to quickly win her trust, is to create some kind of connection like this. Pick out something that unites the two of you and sets you apart from others.
It will help if you practice doing this with almost anyone you see at parties or in nightclubs. Even if you are not attracted to the person and don’t intend to talk to them, look for something that could form a connection between you and imagine what you would say. It will soon become second nature to you.
The important point with this technique is to talk about your own feelings, not hers. It works best if it’s some kind of problem that you both have – you’re dressed too smart, you wish you could smoke, etc. Does it look like her shoes might be uncomfortable? Don’t mention her shoes, but create a connection by saying you wished you’d worn your new shoes a couple times before you wore them tonight.
You can win her trust in seconds by creating a bond like this. Then you can reinforce it with touch. A touch on the arm or upper back, or holding her hand for a moment, is ideal. This will reassure her that you are interested and will take care of her. Keep it brief to leave her wanting more.
The sooner you realize this sad but true fact, the sooner you can get on with finding Mr. Close-Enough-To-Perfect. Prince Charming, riding on a white stallion, lost his way or found Princess Charming and got married on his way to your castle. Get over it and get on with it. You ARE going to have to actively seek the man of your dreams and you won’t find him hiding under your bed. You already know that he isn’t among the men that you are acquainted with so, now what? Online dating is “what”.
It’s true that online dating, while in its infancy, was only made up of perverts, sexual predators, nerds and weirdoes but that is no longer true. It has become the main tool of the single person in every developed country in the world. Forty million people can’t all be wrong. Ask your girl friends if they have ever used online dating or are using it now. If they are honest with you, most of them have or are now members of at least one online dating site and maybe more than one. It really is the way to go to meet eligible men who want to meet you. It doesn’t matter what any of your numbers are…like age, height, weight or income either. Somewhere out there in the big wide world there is a man who will like you…..then love you….and think that you are beautiful and desirable. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” is true. What is considered beautiful in one part of the world is completely different from what is considered beautiful in another part of the world. It’s even different from one part of this country to another.
Find an online dating site that fits your needs. Write a great profile and post a flattering picture. Start contacting eligible men on the site. Mr. Close-enough-to-perfect could be a few mouse clicks away.