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You should always watch for signs of any anomalies in the information you get from anyone online.
There shouldn’t be any inconsistencies if people are telling the truth so if you find that someone has told you something at some stage and that information differs from another discussion they had with you then be wary of that person.
The inconsistencies can relate to any areas of their life from their employment to their age, profession, interests or other things they talk about.
Take note if this happens to see whether it is an isolated incident and possibly a misunderstanding or whether the person is giving you false information.
If they are cagey about revealing information on topics that you wouldn’t expect to cause concern then that is another thing that you should deal with before accepting an invitation to meet up.
Don’t be afraid to expect direct answers to your questions regarding any matters that seem unusual and if you are unsatisfied with the information you receive then consider ending the relationship before you have any problems as honesty is a key to any successful relationship and if you haven’t got that from the start you are unlikely to get it as time goes by.
If the person gets agitated or annoyed at any comments or questions then that is another warning sign for you to consider and moving on to a more suitable person might be the best idea at that stage to ensure your safety and happiness.
Always remember that there are many people to choose from and even if this one took a long time to find the next person, who might be a lot more suitable, could be just around the corner.
You don’t need to compromise and particularly when it comes to matters as important as trust and safety.
When you join a dating site it is usually to find a romantic date, so how do you go about choosing your online dating identity? First of all, you will have filled in the numerous questions used to find your perfect match. Of course most matches are not truly perfect and you will have to use your own common sense in choosing those that seem to be the best fit with what you desire in a date. If the person loves football and you hate it, there’s not much point getting together unless you know you can live with that.
First you will receive an email from them to show you that they are interested. Of course, your real email address will be hidden, so don’t just hit the ‘reply’ button or you will risk revealing it. You need to log in to the dating website and then go to your prospective date’s profile. Read everything they have written about themselves and see if it is a fit with what you would like in a date.
You might be able to tell what sort of person they are from the wording of their first email to you. If they have written something like, Hey Babe, let’s hit the beaches tomorrow, When you specifically asked to be addressed by the name you’ve chosen for your profile, then you can be reasonably sure that this is not the person you are looking for. It may seem like a little thing at first glance, but if someone can’t respect your wishes in a small thing, will they be likely to respect them in a more important issue?
Other things to watch out for in their emails are things like do they seem to avoid answering your questions, do they seem to anger easily, and are they controlling? Watch for respect. If a person sounds respectful it is a good sign. Some people tend to forget that a real person with real feelings is on the other end of their email.
Once you decide not to use the anonymous email address provided by the dating service, choose a free email account (eg hotmail) and never reveal your full name. The same applies to telephone calls. Use a cell phone or an anonymous telephone service for phone calls until you get to know the person better.
Once you decide to meet in person, take note of whether they look like their photo. If they have told you that their photo is a recent one, but you can see it’s not, then you know they have lied to you. Once again, if they can tell a white lie, then they can tell a whopper, so be careful. Once you put a few safeguards into place, go ahead and have some fun. You’ll enjoy it all the more knowing you are safe.