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Women are too critical and negative, no one wants to date a nag, so stop complaining about how much dating stinks and how many guys suck. Don’t try to change the guy and tell him how he should act or what he should do; it is ok to challenge a guy without criticizing him. Remember mist guys want to date a woman with a god attitude and an open mind.

Women talk too much, it is exhausting to go out with a woman who barely takes a breath between sentences. Stop going on and on about your job, you’re ex boyfriend, or how annoying one of your girlfriends is. A few guys want the play by play of what you did today. Remember slow down, and take a breath, ask him a few questions and listen.

Women are too high maintenance, I once knew a gal who thought that $1200 purses would attract more men to her. I don’t know how many guys are into these things and I actually think the average guy doesn’t know the difference between a Prada purse and the Chinatown special. I think guys who know you are dressed in designer everything may get scared off. Women if your hair is too perfectly quaffed and your wearing tons of makeup you make look like you just cant have fun, let loose, and be touched and that is certainly not the message you want to send to a guy you like.

Women are too insecure, dating can be nerve-racking, and I totally get that it wakes up some insecurities, but as much as you can remember to smile and make eye contact, you will already appear more comfortable. Don’t talk about how fat you feel and don’t talk about your faults or how many guys have dumped you it is just not that attractive.

And finally women come on too strong. Ever see the movie how to loose a guy in ten days? Watch it again; don’t talk about how cute your kids will be the wedding colors you love, and don’t start baking him cakes and buying him sweaters right away. Planning your next twenty years together is really not attractive at the beginning of dating a new person. Remember some mystery is good. The good news is we all make mistakes in dating and it helps to remember you are not alone. Just remember not to commit any of these dating mistakes and you will all ready be ahead in the dating game.

Remember even a bad date makes a great story so get out there and have always have fun, I am Andrea Syrtash and see you next time.

Is it easier to cheat on someone online?

Man on Street: I don’t think it is easier to cheat on somebody online, I don’t think so.
Woman on Street: It’s much easier to cheat on someone online, much easier.
Woman on Street: If they can find someone to date online, then they can date someone else.
Woman on Street: It is easy to lie I would say or to deceive online.
Man on Street: It’s pretty easy to hide something.
Man on Street: I would imagine cheating on someone online would be easier than it would be in relationships, your own personal relationships.
Woman on Street: I think if you’re going to cheat on someone, you will cheat on them no matter what the situation.

Andrea Syrtash: Have you ever heard of the website Ashlemadison.com? There tagline is where monogamy becomes monotony. This place is for people looking for an affair. The site boasts 1.2 million member signups, just over a million people online looking to cheat. As dubious as it sounds, in a way it is a more straight forward than the majority of people who meet and cheat online. Most of these people cheat under the radar, and most online daters are in an awkward position of playing a guessing game.

One third of online daters are in a relationship when they join an online dating site. Believe it or not, some men and women in relationships do not think that flirtatious email exchange, with someone new, who they have just met online, is on the verge of cheating. Yeah they are wrong. Picking up online is the same as going to a local bar and picking up. No excuses.

So why is this so common? Well it is easy to be anonymous with people we meet on the internet. The chances of getting caught by your spouse or partner may be slim. I always tell people to have a healthy dose of skepticism in dating. And online dating is no exception. So how do you spot an E-cheater?
Well the short answer is you can’t. Then why am I doing this segment? Well I can offer a few clues to help you figure it out.

1. Notice your date’s schedule.
This is the first step in spotting an E-cheater. Notice are you communicating at very odd hours early in the morning, very early at night. Do you ever speak during peak times? Like between seven and ten on a weeknight.

What about the weekends?

2. Do you speak on the phone and see each other, or leave everything to emails and text?
While it’s true that some people hate the phone, make sure to have at least a few phone conversations. And see each other at these peak times. You should never date someone who you only communicated with through typed words. That is no basis for a relationship.

3. After a few months of dating, have you met your dates friends, family or co-workers?
Have you seen your date in her world? Of course you are not going to meet her network right away. But after a number of months of dating it is a valid concern if you have never met anybody connected to her.

4. After a few months of dating, have you seen your date’s home?
I have a client who used to tell me how romantic her online date was. He would fly into her town, wine and dine her. Take her to hotels all over the city. Well it turns out that this guy who was flying into Canada from the UK, actually lived thirty minutes away from her, with his wife and two kids.

5. Trust your intuition.

It is true that people who have little to worry about in a relationship rarely question their partner’s fidelity. So if you have an off feeling, trust your instinct and investigate more.

So what do you do if you suspect you are the other woman or the other man in a relationship? Go on the offense; schedule a date at a popular time. A birthday, a holiday, one of the peak times I am talking about. And if your date is never free at these times, ask what’s up. You can simply say, am I the only person you are romantically involved with at this time? Listen closely to the answer. Does your date sound defensive? Does he or she offer long winded excuses? You will get a sense.

Here are some sure fire ways to make sure your boyfriend or girlfriend is not an E-cheater:

1. Date during peak hours
2. Meet your partner’s friends or family.
3. See where your boyfriend or girlfriend lives.
4. Most importantly trust your intuition.

Bottom line, don’t be scared to speak up or play investigator if you are not feeling right after a couple of months with your online date. Trust your gut. There is a reason you’re questioning where you stand. Thanks for watching On Dating, I am Andrea Syrtash, see you next time.