If you have found a date that seems to be just what you are looking for, but the only trouble is they live in another state or even another country, should you go ahead and contact them? In the old days when people had penfriends, they were usually a long way off, but then, these pen-friendships didn’t normally become romances. For one thing, letters took so long to arrive at their destination that the romance, if there was one, usually fizzled out. But these days communication is so much faster. You can share photos and email quickly and easily long-distance and receive them in a few minutes. It makes you feel like your date is just at the other end of the street.

But what if they are a really long way off? They could be at the other end of the state of country, or even overseas. There are several bad points to consider. Firstly, the cost of phone calls if you want to phone each other frequently. Of course there are cheaper rates at certain times and you will certainly take advantage of these, but it will still mount up. Then there may be the time difference. One of you may have to stay awake until 2am to get that important phone call.

Then there is the cost of traveling to meet the other person. You might decide to meet halfway, but then you would be without any family or friend support should things go wrong. Even if things worked out beautifully, there would still be financial considerations. Imagine arranging a wedding long-distance for instance.

A person who lives a long way away may also have a different background culturally to you. You must ask yourself if you could make the necessary adjustments, should the romance become serious. And if you were to go and live with that person, then you could be far from support of family and friends in sickness or for the raising of children. Many people do manage these considerations admirably, but could you?

Another consideration could be why is this person interested in a date from so far away? Could it be that he has a wife (or husband) and family already and doesn’t want them to find out that he wants a date with another person. If the person is a female from another country, might they just be trying to use you as an escape from poverty? These things may not be so, but you still have to consider them. However, if you’ve thought all things through and still want to go ahead with your long distance romance, then do so. It could be very romantic!