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When you join an online dating service, you will have the opportunity to upload a photograph of yourself for your profile. Some allow more than one photo, which is excellent. So while you are scanning through all those great photos, here are a few pointers.
* Use recent photos. If you choose photos that are old, you are being less than truthful. Besides, old hairstyles and clothing will be likely to give your game away. (And they are sometimes less than attractive!)
* They say the camera does not lie, but some photos just don’t look good due to poor lighting or other problems. Use a photo that is as clear as possible.
* Choose several likely photos before you even go online. Don’t just grab any old snap at the last minute.
* Choose a snap that shows you at ease doing something you like. If you a surf babe, one of you on the beach would be appropriate. If you love the snow, try and get one where you are skiing or snowboarding.
* Your photo should communicate something about your personality and lifestyle. It can be something that a prospective date could look at and think that they would like to be part of. Make sure you are looking happy.
* If you choose a photo of yourself dressed up for some formal occasion, also include a ‘normal’ one, so that you are not giving a false impression of yourself.
* The first photo should be a portrait, e,g, one of your head and shoulders. Others can be more informal and more about your lifestyle, personality and ideas of fun.
* It goes without saying that your photo should not be anything indecent. Otherwise you risk being banned from the site.
* Your photo should not be a collage or composite of many.
Most online dating websites have an upload option especially for photographs. You will find their requirements onsite. Many prefer the photo to be a jpg of a certain size. Some may allow a photo to be scanned and sent as an attachment via email. This will take a bit longer to go live, due to the editors being so busy. An even longer option may allow you to send photos by snail mail. Expect this to take 48 hours or more from the time of receipt.
Don’t forget to include all your details with your photos if you do have to send them. You will need to send your membership number and username as well as your email address.
When you are hoping to attract and seduce a woman, you will need to know how to win her trust. Women are taught to be cautious of men throughout their lives. Children are told by their parents and teachers to be careful of strange men and for girls this continues after they are grown up.
So when you want to attract a woman, you need to earn her trust. This means treating her in a way that shows you will not hurt her. This is not just a question of hurting her physically, although this is certainly a factor. However, she also wants to know that you will not hurt her and treat her badly emotionally.
A man who is impatient and tries to bully women or coerce them into agreeing to a date is not likely to be successful with women. There may be a few who will accept this kind of treatment but most will run away. If you push a woman too hard for her phone number, for example, she will become afraid and will give you a false one.
A great way to win a woman’s trust is to establish a connection. In fact, this works for all relationships and you are probably aware of it. For example, if you are stuck in an elevator or involved in a dangerous or awkward situation with other people, you will quickly trust the people who are in that situation with you. A connection is created and a level of trust which would normally have taken months to build up, is right there immediately.
Of course you cannot arrange to get stuck in an elevator with every attractive woman that you meet – or if you do, you will find that word gets around town and people quickly become unwilling to enter elevators with you! But a great technique when you first meet a woman and want to quickly win her trust, is to create some kind of connection like this. Pick out something that unites the two of you and sets you apart from others.
It will help if you practice doing this with almost anyone you see at parties or in nightclubs. Even if you are not attracted to the person and don’t intend to talk to them, look for something that could form a connection between you and imagine what you would say. It will soon become second nature to you.
The important point with this technique is to talk about your own feelings, not hers. It works best if it’s some kind of problem that you both have – you’re dressed too smart, you wish you could smoke, etc. Does it look like her shoes might be uncomfortable? Don’t mention her shoes, but create a connection by saying you wished you’d worn your new shoes a couple times before you wore them tonight.
You can win her trust in seconds by creating a bond like this. Then you can reinforce it with touch. A touch on the arm or upper back, or holding her hand for a moment, is ideal. This will reassure her that you are interested and will take care of her. Keep it brief to leave her wanting more.