singlemates.net
When it comes to putting the moves on someone, no one can make themselves rejection-proof. But you can increase the odds of a good outcome.
You Will Need
* Eye contact
* A warm smile
* Cheese
* Circumspection
* Dignity
Step 1: Look for cues
Before approaching someone, try to catch their eye. If they hold your gaze for a moment and then fiddle with their appearance — like straighten their shoulders or touch their hair — chances are they’re interested.
Step 2: Lock eyes
If you’ve managed to engage your crush in a conversation, maintain eye contact. It’s called the “anchoring gaze” and it fosters feelings of intimacy.
Step 3: Order some cheese
If there’s any way to work a cheese platter into the evening, do so. Cheese is chock full of the chemical phenylethylamine, an aphrodisiac.
Step 4: Don’t overshare
Don’t provide too much information upfront. Ex-lovers, copious numbers of pets, prison stints, and radical weight loss procedures are best left for another time.
Step 5: Beat ‘em to the punch
If it becomes obvious that the person you’re chatting up is not interested in you — their eyes are wandering; they’re grunting one-word responses; they’re not smiling — say, “It was nice meeting you,” and move on.
When on the dating scene, you meet several people you like; anyone of them could be ‘the one’ for you but you cannot find out unless you converse with them. Starting a conversation with a stranger could be difficult but not impossible. When you are conversing with a new date, there are certain pointers that can make sure you plan your second date before parting. Read on!
Introduction and the first contact
This is your initial contact with a potential date or your first evening out with a blind date; think of it as an opportunity to not show your handsome conversation skills but making the date feel comfortable. Some ideas to get the conversation flowing are:
• The safest topic to talk is something from our immediate surroundings. If you are waiting in a long queue to a movie, comment on it; you could comment on the sudden change of weather. Anything that focuses on an item and removes any awkwardness with a personal comment will help.
• If tongue-tied or you cannot think of anything interesting to say, simply flash a genuine and caring smile. Nothing can do more wonders and speak louder than a heart warming smile; you may not have to worry about starting the conversation after that!
• Admiring your date’s sense of clothing, the bag or cell phone they are carrying or the scrumptious salad they have ordered is a good ice-breaker as well.
Topics to discuss as conversation follow up
Now that you have said your hellos, flashed that smile and most probably paid a genuine compliment, what next? Think up of some current topics or a piece of interesting or better still humorous story to relate. You do not have to spend hours or days thinking about these, just any current event topics that interest you or something on news could be helpful.
It is always interesting to discuss the last movie you watched. Though be careful of getting into the details of a gory movie without first confirming your date actually likes them too! It can be fun as you begin to share likes and dislikes and gain common grounds.
Once the interest of the date is gauged, you can easily continue the conversation flow. By now, if your date is not responding well or is replying in monotones, you probably do not have common ground! To make for fruitful conversation, clue in to what your date has to say and ask questions and respond on the subject. Relate your experiences and stories in a capsule format and wait for questions or turn the tables and ask “what do you think about…?”
A graceful end
A conversation especially with somebody you are beginning to like and find common interests with can go on forever. Leave on a note with your date wanting more without smothering them with too much information.
Thank your interesting date for their time and let them know you have to leave and would love to continue the conversation another time. This is the time to fix your next date or share contact details to fix one up later. Look back at them while leaving and Flash a smile as a sign of acknowledging the new relationship and make them feel special!