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Early in a relationship the romance factor is very high. The romance is seemingly effortless and it seems as though the romance will never fade. You may find, however, that over time the romance does fade and the relationship doesn’t seem as exciting as it did in the beginning. This is natural as a couple becomes more familiar with each other they begin to make less of an effort in the romance department. When this happens it is time for the couple to start making a conscious effort to recharge their romance.
Recreating your first date can be one way to recharge your romance. Both partners probably put a tremendous amount of effort into their first date and it was probably an incredibly romantic night for both of you. Reenacting this first date by not only returning to the sight of the first date but also putting the same effort into preparing for the date can help to recharge your romance by reminding you of how exciting your relationship was in the beginning.
Leaving your work at the office is another way to recharge your romance. If you are constantly allowing your work life to interfere with your romantic life it is time to put your romance ahead of your career. While it is okay to talk to your partner about work and how your day went, obsessing over work is not acceptable and can put out the fire in your romance rather quickly.
Giving your partners flowers or small gifts for no reason can also recharge your romance. This lets them know that you still think about them when the two of you are apart and that your love for them is always on your mind. The gifts don’t have to be expensive or extravagant but if they truly come from the heart they will help to recharge your romance.
Another way to recharge your romance is to be spontaneous. Romance often fades when a relationship becomes routine and the partners begin to take each other for granted. Spicing things up by suggesting new activities on a whim can reintroduce the romance in your relationship. Too much planning and debate about what to do or where to go can put a damper on the activity or trip before it even takes place. Excessive planning can make something seem dull while spontaneity has the opposite affect of making the activity seem more exciting.
Spending time apart can also recharge a romance. It may sound counterproductive but having your own activities and interests keeps you from becoming bored with your partner. Spending time together is very important but spending time apart is equally important because this time apart gives you the chance to grow as an individual which can enhance your relationship.
Quality time together, just like time apart, can also help to recharge your romance. You need alone time as a couple to reconnect and nurture your romance. A night out on the town for just the two of your or a quiet night alone at home can be equally effective for recharging your romance. Without this time together a couple will not have the opportunity to express themselves to their partner in a romantic way.
Incessant arguing can destroy the romance in a relationship. If you find that you and your partner are arguing constantly or over every little thing, it’s time to really evaluate the relationship and figure out why you are arguing so much. Believe it or not, you may find that this arguing is a subconscious attempt to try to recharge your romance. Arguing invokes passion and you may be trying to bring that passion into your relationship. If you find yourself doing this, it’s time to realize that the arguing is having the opposite effect and that you have to stop this unhealthy pattern. Once you realize that there are other ways to recharge a romance your arguing will subside.
Making a concerted effort to impress your partner can also recharge the romance in a relationship. As a relationship progresses there is often a sense of familiarity and comfort that emerges and results in the couple feeling as if they no longer need to try to impress their partner. They may begin to let their appearance go or stop going out of their way to please their partner. Reversing this by returning to your old ways of trying to impress your partner can go a long way in recharging romance in a relationship.
Taking a trip together can also have the effect of recharging your romance. While planning a trip may be stressful most people relax and enjoy themselves once they reach their destination. Planning a trip with your partner will give each other the opportunity to enjoy each other’s company without the worries and hassles of everyday life.
Turning off the computer for a few days can be a really simple way to recharge your romance. Many couples use their computers often to check email, search the Internet or chat with others and this time spent on the computer can really add up and begin to take time away from your partner. Time can fly when you are computing and you may find that you have wasted an entire night on your computer. You may find that if you turn the computer off for a few days, you have a lot more time to spend with your partner and the romance may naturally return to your relationship.
It is natural for romance to begin to fade if the partners begin to take each other for granted and stop trying to impress each other. Romance doesn’t exist on its own; it needs to be nurtured in a loving way in order to survive. Recharging your romance may seem like a daunting task but it really isn’t. Making an effort to spend time together, showing your partner that you care and scheduling time together and apart are all simple ways to recharge your romance.
So you have met that special guy and you are wondering how to make him fall in love with you. While there is (unfortunately) no magic potion, the good news is that there is a lot you can do to get and keep his interest.
Be Yourself …
Most men are very independent minded creatures and like to make up their own mind about everything. They do not want you to tell them what to do and they do not like to feel they are being led or tricked into liking or disliking something. So there is no point doing things that are not natural to you, to try to please them.
For example, if you hate football, do not pretend to like it just because he is a huge fan. He will know you don’t really care, no matter how much work you do learning the names of all the players. He will just think you are trying to deceive or trap him, and he will run a mile.
… And Love Yourself
Be yourself but do not put yourself down. Many people do this, usually to reassure others that we are not a threat, but people will often take you at your own valuation and it can make them think you are boring. Ask your friends for advice here, or record yourself talking. Do you tend to make yourself look small and uninteresting? If you do, you need to get yourself out of this habit. Try to be aware and think before you speak.
Look after yourself physically. Take exercise and try to eat well. This will make you feel better about yourself, plus you will develop a glow that is naturally healthy and attractive. Love yourself and he is much more likely to love you.
Be Interesting
The best way to be an interesting person is to do interesting things. Have a life. Do not spend every evening waiting for the phone to ring or watching movies on TV. Go to an evening class, meet people, take up a sport you used to like in school.
Be careful not to criticize others, too. Repeating scandalous rumors or saying how much you hate someone will only reflect badly on you. Keep that kind of talk for gossip sessions with your friends, if you have to do it at all.
Admire Him
We tend to like the people who like us, so it is fine to let him know that you like him … as a friend. However, if you have fallen in love at first sight it may be best to keep that to yourself. Let him be the first to say ‘I love you’.
Most men love to be admired. They may run a mile if you try to cling to them, but they will do almost anything for someone who admires them and believes in them without making any demands.
So while it is better to keep your undying love to yourself, at least at the beginning, it is fine to tell him openly that you admire something he does. Any sentence that starts with ‘I really admire the way you …’ is a winner. After the first step of loving yourself and your life, this is one of the best ways to make him fall in love.