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Online dating is not a competition between competing males for the attention of a female. Grow up. Change your mind set from “winning” to “searching”. This isn’t high school. You are all grown up and have been for quite some time, now. Your attitude is the most important asset you have. You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things that aren’t YOUR idea of the perfect guy…the one the all women want.
What is that women want, you ask? That’s the age old question. Being of the female persuasion myself, I can tell you a few things women want and don’t want.
Women want a man to be confident…NOT an arrogant jerk. There’s a big difference. You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. They don’t want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either. They can’t live up to that expectation.
Women want a communicator. The “strong silent type” really isn’t appealing at all. They think you probably don’t have an original thought in your head and you probably haven’t heard a word they said, either or that you just don’t care what they said or didn’t even hear what they said. They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.
Women do NOT want to be a prize to be won. They don’t want to be a trophy. They want to be the ONE woman that you want to be with.
While teen dating may seem daunting to the parents, it is an exciting time for the teens. Part of being a teenager, though, is trying to come up with teen dating ideas that will keep the parents happy while still allowing the kids to have a good time. In addition, most teenagers don’t have a lot of money so it is important to optimize the dating time to get the most for your money. There are several ideas available for going out on a budget friendly yet fun date. You can make the most out of your teen dating experience while saving some money in the process. Below are ten suggestions for fun dates:
1. A meal and a movie – While this is a traditional date and does cost some money, there are ways to make it more budget friendly. Go to a matinee showing of a movie and go to lunch. Lunch is typically lighter and lest costly than dinner and matinees are usually available at discount prices
2. Picnic in the park – This is a great way to have some fun, get some exercise and enjoy one another’s company. You can play football, toss around a Frisbee or hold hands and take a walk. Pack some light snacks and drinks and you have a romantic and fun date.
3. Zoo – Going to the zoo is fun for people of all ages and makes an ideal date. You have plenty to look at and discuss in case you need conversation starters. Also, most zoos have an admission charge but it is generally pretty affordable.
4. School sports – Support your teams by attending school sporting events with your date. Students at the school usually get in for free or at discounted prices. Not only can you have fun enjoying the spectacle of a sporting event but you can show your team spirit.
5. Ice or roller skating – If you are lucky enough to have an ice rink, there is nothing more romantic than holding hands while skating and warming up with a cup of cocoa afterward. If there’s no ice rink available in your location, roller skating is great too. If you are more into outdoor activities, try roller blades in the park.
6. Rent a movie – While you may have to contend with other family members who may be present, imagine how relieved your parents will feel when they know you are comfortable with spending time with them while on a date. You can rent a movie and fix some popcorn. Warn your parents, though, not to be too obtrusive!
7. Study – While studying or doing homework together may not sound like the most fun time you can have, imagine how much faster you will get it done if you do it together. Go to the library, quiz each other and critique one another’s work. You can improve your grades while spending time together. When you’re done doing your studying, reward yourselves with a trip to an ice cream parlor.
8. Arcade – Nowadays there are some fun arcades that have carnival type games, video games and virtual games. This can be a great way to play and have fun. You may also be able to win some prizes as mementos of your time.
9. Bowling – Bowling can be a fun and competitive game on a single date or a group date. It’s not very expensive and can provide hours of entertainment. There are even neon bowling venues for night time bowling with laser lights and pounding music that is great for the younger crowd.
10. Miniature golf – See which one of you is the better putter and can get a hole in one. This is a fun past time and it’s also competitive. You can think of a prize for the winner. Perhaps the loser has to buy the winner dinner.
It is absolutely true that when online dating sites first started they were populated entirely by perverts, sexual predators, weirdoes, social misfits and emotional wrecks but that is no longer true. Online dating has gone mainstream and has lost all the social stigma it once suffered. Single people of all ages, races, religions and both sexes do it. Short people, tall people, thin people, obese people do it. People from every developed country in the world do it. Nice girls do it, too. The reasons people join online dating sites are as varied as the people who join but mostly they join for three very good reasons: (1) Time (2) Money and (3) It works.
Time: You can go through hundreds of online profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in the same length of time only one real world date takes and the screening is already done for you. You can tell right away if a guy is only looking for casual relationships or long term commitments. How many times have you worked 8 hours, gone home and spent another hour getting ready to go out then gone to the local hang-out for singles only to see the same old jerks, losers and drunks that are always there?
Money: For the price of one evening out on the town you can enjoy an entire month of meeting men from the safety of your own home….do it in your jammies or sweats and with a beauty facial working its magic.
It works. It really does work if you are willing to do the right things. Write a profile that grabs attention, post recent pictures of yourself, be fun and interesting while chatting with the men you meet on line, answering emails promptly and being on time for a pre-arranged online meeting.
OK…the time has come. You have joined an online dating service or two. Now you must write that all-important profile… the one that will attract attention and reel in the man of your dreams… but where to start? Maybe writing isn’t even something you think you do all that well. Even so, you can do this.
The first thing is to be absolutely honest about yourself. You are looking for that man who will like…maybe someday love…YOU….THE REAL YOU! Examine past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you did not like. If he smoked in the house and you hated it, you won’t like it any better the next time. If you love cats and will always want to own one or more, say that you are an animal lover and want indoor pets. Someone who hates cats or is allergic to them is not the guy for you.
Accent the things that make you unique. If you play the piano well, you really want Mr. Right to appreciate it. If you run in marathons, a couch potato is not a good match. If you love art, you really don’t want a man who thinks Picasso is an ice cream flavor.
Describe the things that are vital in your life. If volunteering is the one thing that makes you feel useful and worthwhile, you want someone who would, at the very least, support you if not join you in your volunteer projects. When you get beyond superficial things, you will attract men who share your values.
Invest in your online profile by hiring a professional photographer for your first online picture. This is so important. The picture is the FIRST thing men see. The second thing is that they read what you have written about yourself. Some online dating sites even provide you with a list of photographers in your area that specialize in online dating site photos.
With the explosion of online dating sites has come a virtual smorgasbord of choices. There are free sites… I don’t recommend those but if money is a real concern, they are better than nothing. There are the large paid sites with many and varied features like chat, IM and even matching using profiles. There are the less expensive paid sites with few features. There are special interest sites for almost any thing you can think of…outdoor enthusiasts, couch potatoes, religious, non-religious, gays, lesbians…like I said…almost anything you can think of. So what’s a girl to do? A girl should choose the site or sites that best fit her needs.
Here are some things to consider:
Cost. How much do you want or how much can you spend each month for your membership (s)?
Features. Which features are the most important to you?
Profile matching systems. Is this a feature you really want or would you rather decide who is right for you all by yourself?
Chat and IM’s? There are websites who offer chat rooms and IM’s on their sites. Does that matter or would you be happy just sticking to private email.
Outside Events…such as speed dating? Are you interested in that?
Privacy. Some websites allow you to limit who can view your picture or your profile. Does this matter to you or do you want as wide exposure as you can have?
Safety. There are websites who do background checks of all subscribers and certify their age, marital status and background. Would you feel safer using this feature?
These are a few things but not all things you should consider when choosing an online dating service or services. Do your homework and choose wisely for the best results for you.